Xi Omega Xi Founder – Joy Piatek Behan

Joy is a Fall 2000 initiate of Beta Eta.  During her time at Beta Eta, Joy was involved as a the Cultural Chair, Philanthropy Chair, and participated in many intramural sports.  In fact, she won racquetball intramural three years in a row for Alpha Chi. She graduated from FSU in 2004 with a B.A. in International Affairs and French.  In 2007 she received her JD from Mercer University College of Law.

After law school, Joy moved to Amelia Island to be near her fiance and practice commercial litigation and employment law with a boutique firm in Jacksonville. In 2008 Joy married Paul, her high school (and college) sweetheart, with many Alpha Chi’s in attendance.  Earlier this year Joy left her law firm, went on an adventure-filled vacation to New Zealand (complete with bungy jumping) with her husband, and began working as a career services counselor with Florida Coastal School of Law.

Joy and Paul have two miniature dachshunds that rule their house and are expecting their first little legacy this March. 

New Member Retreat weekend

This weekend the new member class of 2010, traveled to Orlando, Florida to participate in the Annual New Member retreat. The weekend was full of fun activities. The girls learned about Alpha Chi Omega, Florida State, the Beta Eta chapter, and of course about each other.. 
The of course spent time watching the Florida State game, and were able to catch some sun at a local lake.
  

How do you wear your Seminole pride?

What a great game against Samford last week when the Seminoles crushed their opponent 59-6! Hope you’re got your war paint on for the Oklahoma game scheduled at 3:30pm. GO NOLES! How do you wear your Seminole pride? Email your pictures of your Seminole pride to mcraig@gaylordhotels.com and you may be featured as a model of Alpha Chi Seminole Pride!

Have you checked out the official website of the 2010 FSU Homecoming Events?


We have secured a room block at Quality Inn & Suites (2020 Apalachee Pkwy; Phone: (850) 877-4437) for a group rate of $139.00 per night for the 1st Annual Xi Omega Xi Lucky Stars Reunion Weekend. Check out the Homecoming tab for all the information on how to book your room!
Looking through travel sites like expedia.com, comparable hotel rooms in Tallahassee for Homecoming weekend range anywhere from $160-300+!
Let us know if you’re looking for sisters to share a room. We’d be happy to link you up!

Wear Your Social Excellence Pants

This article was originally posted on Phired Up’s Blog on April 12th, 2010   by Matt Geik

“Recently, as I jettisoned from point A on the map to point B, I took some time to do some reading that probably falls more under the title of leisure than anything else.  As I flipped through the first couple pages of one of my favorite magazines I came across a two-page advertisement for Dockers and their “Wear The Pants” campaign.  I’ll be honest with you and say since the first job I had out of college, where I was required to wear khakis everyday, I’ve taken a hard line and prohibited khakis from entering my wardrobe.  Don’t hit the send button on that rules of fashion e-mail just yet!  I know they have their place in a well groomed man’s closet; I just haven’t gotten over the trauma of that brown cotton twill experience yet.

With that said, I naturally would have flipped to the next page but the ad caught my eye with its typewriter font wording that made up the torso of a man on top of a pair of Docker’s Khaki’s.  In case you haven’t seen it…
Here’s what the those well-tailored words say:
“Once upon a time, men wore the pants and wore them well.  Women rarely had to open doors and little old ladies never crossed the street alone.  Men took charge because that’s what they did.  But somewhere along the way, the world decided it no longer needed men.  Disco by disco, latte by foamy non-fat latte, men were stripped of their khakis and left stranded on the road between boyhood and androgyny.  But today, ther are questions our genderless society has no answers for.  The world sits idly by as cities crumble, children misbehave and those little old ladies remain on one side of the street.  For the first time since bad guys, we need heroes.  We need grown-ups.  We need men to put down the plastic fork, step away from the sald bar and untie the world from the tracks of complacency.  It’s time to get your hands dirty.  It’s time to answer the call of manhood.  It’s time to WEAR THE PANTS.”

Now, before anybody starts talking about gender rolls and asks Destiny’s Child to get back together to perform Independent Women, lets talk about why this is the perfect example of why social excellence is such an important and hot topic with everyone that we work with.
You see the ad plays on the old adage about who wears the pants in a relationship and the ideas of what it means to be a man in days long gone.  However, the underlying spirit of those days (sans the overmasculinocentricity)  might not be as long gone as people might think.  Campus after campus, interview after interview I continue to hear students, both men and women alike, talk to me about what is essentially the lack of social excellence on their campus and in their communities.  It comes in the form of the women who are too caddy with their group of three friends, and their Venti Iced Frappuccino’s and matching Coach purses who wouldn’t notice if another person existed with in the same time zone that they’re in.  It’s the guy who is walking across campus right now in sweat pants, socks and sandals, texting while listening to his iPod with his hoody up.  Or the woman talking on her cell phone to her friend she just walked away from as she attempts to simultaneously place her order in the food court.  Its the guy who speeds up to walk in the door and pretends not to see the other person walking out of it with their hands full only to leave them struggling to manage their goods and the door in frustration.  It is everywhere and I’m sure you can share some more great examples with me.
For those of you nodding your head right now don’t get ahead of the story, that ruins the fun.  For those of you wondering why any of this matters hang in there and read on.
You see when I read that Docker’s ad, I thought of college campuses… students.  I thought of Greeks.

And in my head that ad should read like this:
“Once upon a time Greeks were our campus leaders.  And they led others with class.  Students rarely needed to look far for opportunities to be exceptional and little old ladies still never crossed the street alone.  Greeks set the example because that’s what they did.  But somewhere along the way, our campuses decided it no longer needed men and women of values.  Keg by keg, toga by beer stained toga, Greeks were stripped of their integrity and character and left stranded in the quad somewhere between drunk and social deviant.  But today, there are questions for our campuses that no one has answers for.  Our campuses sit idly by as organizations crumble and students misbehave and those little old ladies remain on one side of the street.  For the first time since Dr. Evil, we need heroes.  We need Greeks.  We need men and women to put down the red Solo cup, step away from the iPod and untie our campuses from the tracks of mediocrity.  It’s time to get your hands dirty.  It’s time to answer the call of being Greek.  It’s time to BE SOCIALLY EXCELLENT.”

So you see, those times aren’t that long gone and certainly not forgotten.  Both women and men alike across this country are voicing their disdain for the lack of social excellence that surrounds them.  They are searching for it, asking where did it go? They are looking for you to once again set the example.  To lead with class.  And therein lies an opportunity, wherever you are, to be the one that steps up and helps that old lady cross the street.  As a Greek man or woman, you have the ad space and captive audience to make others take note of what it means to be socially excellent and why that matters.  The only question that remains is, “What will you do with your opportunity?”
….and can I get Docker’s to send me some of those K-1 Khaki’s?  Turns out there’s a place for them right next to my shelf of Social Excellence.”

makes you think right?

Surviving Domestic Violence

Here’s how Nancy Salamone, a former financial services executive’s marriage began:

“It was the very day that we got home from our honeymoon and there I was lying on the bathroom floor, naked and bleeding. He didn’t like the way I hung the towels in the bathroom. That was the beginning of my marriage. The abuse—physical, sexual, emotional and economic—would continue for 20 years.”
I called Salamone last week to discuss her new book, Victory Over Violence, and her efforts to help other domestic abuse victims.
ME: Looking back, were there signs that would indicate that your ex-husband was abusive?
NS: I married him at 19 and met him when I was 15. I was a very naïve teen. He was moody but I thought that was mysterious. He was very possessive—he didn’t want me to be with my girlfriends. And I was very quiet girl and always did what I was told.
ME: The abuse went on for 20 years yet somehow you were able to become a successful businesswoman.
NS: I found my identity through my work. I was the vice president of marketing for a financial services company and really loved my job. Work was my safe haven. Some people would look forward to going home at the end of the day and I dreaded it.
ME: How did you keep the abuse from being noticed by your coworkers and family members?
NS: I grew up in a Sicilian family in the Bronx and was raised on such idioms as “don’t air your dirty laundry” and “you make your bed, you lie in it.” So I was raised in a code of silence so I never talked about what was happening to me.
ME: In addition to the physical, emotional and psychological abuse you endured, you say you also suffered economic abuse. What does that mean?
NS: I was the breadwinner but I wasn’t allowed to have a checking or savings account or be in charge of my money. I had to turn every paycheck over to him. This is common for a lot of women in violent relationships. They don’t have access to their money or aren’t allowed to work and earn their own money, so it makes it very hard to leave the relationship.
ME: How did you finally muster the courage to leave?
NS: To this day, I still don’t know how I did it. It was like watching a movie. I saw a woman packing her bag and I saw that person close the door behind her, suitcase in hand. I went to my mother’s and I did two things that first week: I found an attorney and I found a therapist.
ME: The time that’s most dangerous for women in abusive relationship is when they leave, correct?
NS: It is. When I left, he began harassing my mother and coworkers. At the time, I was the only female executive officer at the company and he began to call my male counterparts and threaten to kill them—and me. I was so frightened that I hired a bodyguard. Unfortunately, many women in similar situations don’t have the financial means to protect themselves.
ME: How did you begin to heal from the damage?
NS: I knew I needed help so I sought out professional. Thank god for attorney and therapists! It took many years [to heal]. It’s not easy, but the rewards are incredible.
ME: You’ve developed a program called “The Business of Me” to help women who’ve been in abusive relationships. How did that come about?
NS: Once my divorce was over, my new overarching fear was money. So one day when I was in a business meeting, It dawned on me that the decisions I made in business would help further the goals of the company, and I realized I could bring that way of thinking into my personal life. As soon as the meeting was over, I went back to my office and labeled a folder “The Business of Me.” I made a list of the things I wanted in my life. It included what kind of a home I wanted, where I wanted my career to go, how many vacations I would take each year, etc. What I’d done is to create a vision for my life and then I began developing a plan to attain those goals. But my fear didn’t go away overnight. Financial literacy is a skill, so I had to reach out to others to teach me how to manage my money.
ME: Why do you feel it’s so important for women—and not just abused women—to learn how to manage their finances?
NS: When you take on the responsibility for managing your own money, you can make your own choices and create the kind of life you want. For more information about Nancy Salamone and “The Business of Me”, please go to http://www.nancysstory.com.

Do you have anything planned for DVA month? You can always do something simple and wear purple! In fact the 1st 5 alumnae/collegians who email a photo of themselves wearing purple or doing something to support DVA month to axofloridastate {at} gmail {dot} com will receive a  DVA “surprise” in the mail …

Alpha – Chapter House

We often share with you photos from the Beta Eta chapter house.. however, below are photos from the Alpha Chapter House in Greencastle, Indian.. Enjoy…..

 
welcome sign
 
crest in chapter room 
 
sketches of all seven founders line the wall in the chapter room 
(Estelle is pictured above)
 
The “Vault” in the basement where all fraternity archives were kept until they were moved to HQ
 
dinning room 
  
plauqe on site..

Xi Omega Xi Founder – Katie Halliday

Katie was initiated into the Beta Eta Chapter of Alpha Chi Omega at Florida State University in Fall 2004. She held the positions of Chapter President, Vice President of Intellectual Development, Fundraising Chair, and New Member Class Agent. She graduated from Florida State University Magna Cum Laude with a BS in Mathematics Education in April 2008.

After graduation, Katie continued her sorority experience by working for Alpha Chi Omega Headquarters as a Chapter Consultant. She traveled to the southeastern chapters and worked with them on chapter management, leadership, and recruitment.

A year later in Summer 2009, Katie finished her chapter consultant experience and began her teaching career at a high school in the Pittsburgh suburbs. She currently teaches 11th and 12th grade mathematics and is the Student Council Advisor. She also began working with the Delta Chapter at Allegheny College and the Kappa Nu Chapter at Carnegie Mellon University as the Recruitment Advisor and Intellectual Development Advisor. In June 2010, Katie also added Province Collegiate Chair of Western Pennsylvania to her Alpha Chi Omega volunteer positions. She enjoys working with and empowering chapter women.

In Fall 2010, Katie will begin graduate school at the University of Pittsburgh to earn a Master of Education with School Leadership. She plans to pursue her goal of becoming a principal.

Katie enjoys spending time with friends and family-especially her two nieces. She enjoys reading, dancing, yoga, skiing, fashion, and rock music!

Alpha Chi Omega – letter adventure

The wooden letters, Alpha Chi Omega, usually reside on the fireplace in the informal of the chapter house. They are moved for special occasions, such as bid day and date functions and become a photo op. Recently, however, they went on a mini adventure around campus. As members of the local alumnae chapter- Epsilon Tau Epsilon took them on a “photo shoot” around campus.. Check out some of the shots below:

 
@ Westcott – Ruby Diamond Auditorium 
with the “Dragons” on Landis green (to block cars)
At the welcome sign on Woodward
@ Doak Campbell Stadium
 
inside the stadium
 
and back at home in their resting place..    

Xi Omega Xi Founder – Lynn Wittenburg

Lynn was initiated into Beta Eta in the Fall of 1990 (back when you had to wait til second semester to get in :-))During her collegiate years, she held the offices of Philanthropy Chair, Sisterhood Chair, & Par-Tee Chair. She was also VP, Membership of Lady Spirithunters and President of Seminole Ambassadors.

She graduated in 1994 with a BS in Marketing. Originally from Chicago, Lynn moved home upon graduation and started her sports career with the Chicago Bulls. Since then, she’s worked for the Chicago White Sox, Los Angeles Kings, Tampa Bay Lightning and spent a short stint in both Christian publishing & minor league baseball before settling in with the Professional Bullriders as their VP of Marketing.

Lynn currently lives in Colorado Springs with her 2 black labs. She still makes it back to FSU once a year to see the NOLES with some of her AX sorority pledge sisters and visit the Beta Eta house.

What has Beta Eta been up to?

Below are Beta Eta’s accomplishments for the past 3 1/2 years. This updated list will soon be published to our website. We are very proud of our sisters for all they have achieved throughout the years and ready to continue the Alpha Chi tradition of seeking the heights. and look forward to sharing more with you during the 2010 fall semester!


2010
Awards and Achievements
Alpha Chi Omega National Awards:
Finalist Alpha Chi Omega National Council Trophy (1 of 3 chapters)
President’s Roll
Advisory Board of the Year
Dance Marathon Awards, Garnet Division:
1st Place Amount Raised by Pairing
Spirit Award
Most Spirited Individual Dancers in a Pairing (Cara Becker and Michael Hoff)
3rd Place Dance Marathon Overall
Florida State University Greek Awards:
Best Philanthropy
AXΩ Induction into Greek Life Hall of Fame (Cheyenne Overbey)

2nd Place Overall Sorority IM Champions 2010
1st Place:
Beach Volleyball
3rd Place:
Softball
4v4 Flag Football
4th Place:
Basketball
Dodgeball
5th Place:
Soccer
Philanthropy Achievements
Delt Top Model for the Kawasaki Disease Foundation
1st Place
Pi Kappa Phi Night Spikers for Push America
1st Place
PIKE Canned Food Drive for the homeless shelters of Tallahassee
1st Place
Sigma Delta Tau’s Have Your Cake and ΣΔT It Too for Prevent Child Abuse America
2nd Place
PIKE Christmas for the Kids for the Boys and Girls Club of the Big Bend
2nd Place
PIKE Beach Volleyball Tournament for the Boys and Girls Club of the Big Bend
2nd Place
Sigma Nu Ballin’ for Barrett benefiting the Barrett Burchak Scholarship Foundation
Most Participation Award

Fraternity Sweethearts
Sigma Nu
Monique Hoffman
Chi Phi
Kelly Youngblood

Alpha Chi Brothers of Hermes
John Morris, ΣΦE
Brent Hileman, ΠKA

2009
Awards and Achievements
Alpha Chi Omega National Awards:
Young Alumna of the Year (Britain Dwyre)
Dance Marathon Awards, Garnet Division:
1st Place Most Money Raised by Pairing
Florida State University Greek Awards:
Most Improved Chapter of the Year
Greek Week
3rd Place Overall

2nd Place Overall Sorority IM Champions 2010

Philanthropy Achievements
Delt Top Model
1st Place
PIKE Canned Food Drive
1st Place
PIKE Christmas for the Kids
2nd Place
Phi Sigma Kappa’s Ms. Phi-Significant
3rd Place (Tori Barriga)

Alpha Chi Sweetheart
Alex Sandkuhl, ΔTΔ

2008
Awards and Achievements
Alpha Chi Omega National Awards:
Finalist Alpha Chi Omega National Council Trophy (1 of 3 chapters)
Alpha Chi Omega Advisory Board of the Year
Alpha Chi Omega Foundation Carnation Roll Award
Alpha Chi Omega Seeking the Heights Finalist – Risk Management
Alpha Chi Omega Seeking the Heights Finalist – Facility Management
Alpha Chi Omega Seeking the Heights Finalist – Alumnae and Parent Relations
Alpha Chi Omega Seeking the Heights Finalist – P.A.C.E
Alpha Chi Omega Seeking the Heights Finalist – Fraternity Appreciation
Dance Marathon Awards, Garnet Division:
1st Place Dance Marathon Overall
1st Place Amount Raised by Pairing
1st Place Number of Dancers in Pairing
Florida State University Panhellenic Woman of the Week (Ashley Fisher)
Tallahassee Alumnae Panhellenic Scholarship (Ashley Fisher)

Intramural Achievements
1st Place
Kickball
Soccer
3rd Place Overall Florida State University Campus Intramurals

Fraternity Sweetheart
FIJI
Lauren Fedi
Alpha Chi Sweetheart
Jim Alfano, FIJI

2007
Awards and Achievements
Alpha Chi Omega National Awards:
Alpha Chi Omega Advisory Board of the Year
Alpha Chi Omega Foundation Medallion Award
Alpha Chi Omega Seeking the Heights – Panhellenic Relations and Programming
Alpha Chi Omega Seeking the Heights – Best New Member Program
Dance Marathon Awards, Garnet Division:
1st Place Dance Marathon Overall
Homecoming Awards:
1st Place Warchant
Florida State University Greek Awards:
Outstanding Chapter Management
Florida State University Panhellenic Woman of the Week (Tracy Randall)
Tallahassee Alumnae Panhellenic Scholarship (Tracy Randall)

Intramural Achievements
1st Place
Volleyball
Dodgeball
Kickball
Softball

Philanthropy Achievements
Pi Lambda Phi Line Dance
Spirit Award
Alpha Chi Sweetheart
Trent Kilpatrick, ΠKA