I Refuse to Go Alumni/Alumnae Status

another great article from the Fraternal Thoughts blog, that we would like to share

A simple idea occurred to me while attending a fraternity’s international convention. Like most conventions, the attendees were largely undergraduate students, but there were a fair number of alumni as well. This fraternity referred to its undergraduates as their “members” and alumni as “alumni members.” I think this is fairly common in both fraternities and sororities.

Thus, having been out of college for about a dozen years, I was referred to as an “alumni member.”


As a national or international organization, what if you reversed that? What if you started calling your alumni your “members” and your undergraduates something like “collegiate members?” How might that simple word switch change the culture of your organization?

Many sororities already refer to their undergraduate members as “collegiates,” but use “alumnae members” as a term also.

In my experience, when the designation of “alumni member” is conferred upon an individual, either informally or formally, it creates a change in mindset. It creates a sense that the primary work is over, and that one’s involvement in the fraternity is diminishing. That may not be the intent, but it seems to almost always be the result.


How many times have you heard an undergraduate say that they are going “alumni status?” This is code language for “I’m done.” While the experiences of a college student and a graduate are markedly different, somehow the illusion has been created that being an alumnus or alumna means that you are less of a member.

We are lifelong associations, right? Well, if a person lives to be 85 years old, they will have been known as “member” of their organization – in the standard sense – for only 6% of their adult life. Is it any wonder that we have problems with alumni engagement?

It should be noted that most NPHC organizations see tremendous involvement from alumni, especially those who join after the college years. They face less of a problem.

Changing language isn’t enough. It never is. However, for most groups, it can start us towards a new era of greater engagement by our members. It can also give greater meaning – not less – to that critical transition from graduating Senior to real-world adult.

Wouldn’t it be great if alumni stopped saying that they used to be members of their Greek-letter organization? Perhaps, if we give them the right to call themselves members, they will.

I am 34 years old, and have been out of college for 13 years. I don’t believe that I am less of a member of my fraternity now. In fact, in almost every way, I hope that I am a better one.


From now until my last breath, I will proudly be a member of my fraternity.


And the journey continues.

Paint it Purple for DVA

We blogged earlier about the Paint it Purple CupCake project… Well, the time is quickly approaching for us to post images & recipes of cupcakes created by our readers,  Please enjoy the below cupcakes created by one of our alumna’s friends who is also participating in the project. Tomorrow members of the Tallahassee,  ETE alumna chapter will be taking cupcakes to the Beta Eta chapter house for the collegians to help decorate.. Then the cupcakes will be brought to the local Tallahassee Domestic Violence Shelter, the Womens Refuge House.. We will of course post photos upon receiving them!!  Did you participate in this project and make adorable purple cupcakes to share with those in your life to promote DVA? Be sure to email a photo of your cupcakes and recipe to axofloridastate {at} gmail {dot} com and we will compile them to share!

don’t forget if you and/or your family wore purple to support DVA send those photos our way as well…. we will be highlighting members on our blog this month, and a present thanking you for your support will be headed your way!!!

 
Classic Yellow Butter Cake Recipe:
  • 2 sticks (1 cup) unsalted butter, room temperature, plus more for pans
  • 1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour, plus more for pans
  • 1 1/2 cups cake flour (not self-rising)
  • 1 tablespoon baking powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1 3/4 cups sugar
  • 4 large eggs
  • 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
  • 1 1/4 cups milk
·  Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Add cupcake parchment to cupcake pan.
·                 Into a medium bowl, sift together flours, baking powder, and salt; set aside.
·  In a separate bowl beat the butter and sugar until light and fluffy, 3 to 4 minutes, scraping        down the sides of the bowl as needed. Beat in eggs, one at a time, then beat in vanilla. With the mixer on low speed, add the flour mixture in three parts, alternating with the milk and beginning and ending with the flour; beat until combined after each addition.
·  Place batter into a measuring cup (for easy pouring) and pour into cupcake pan. Bake, rotating the pans halfway through, until cupcakes are golden brown and a cake tester inserted into the center comes out clean, 20- 25 minutes. Transfer pans to a wire rack to cool 20 minutes.
·               Wait for cupcakes to cool completely before icing. 
Mixed Berry Cheesecake icing:
  • 1 8oz. Package of cream cheese, softened (Be sure to use regular cream cheese, reduced fat versions tend to melt easier and become runny)
  • 1 box confectioners sugar
  • 1 stick of butter softened.
  • 2 tsp of vanilla
  • ¼ -2 cups of mixed berry puree
·   In main bowl, combine cream cheese, confectioner’s sugar, butter, and vanilla. It is important that your butter is room temp before you start; otherwise you get chunks of butter in your end result.
·   In a food processor, combine equal parts of frozen blueberries, strawberries, blackberries and raspberries. Blend until smooth.
·   Fold, (do not mix) desired amount of blueberry puree into main icing mixture.

Do you remember?

When we think about the time we spend (spent) at the chapter house, many of the hours were during meal time. Throughout the years, the chapter has served countless breakfast, lunches, and dinners to sisters. Of course the chapter also has graciously hosted many fraternity gentlemen, alumnae, professors, and parents.

 
 We can assure you that meal time would not have been such a memorable experience with out the work of the countless gentlemen who have worked as Alpha Chi Omega servers /houseboys. 
The above picture is from the 1970s.  Fun fact: the gentleman leaving on the pot in the backround is Mr. Holdorf, he married a Beta Eta, and some years later, his daughter Rebecca pledged Beta Eta!
One of the other traditions that has become an occasional event in recent years is formal dinner. I am sure many alumnae can remember the “rules” of formal dinner. From which table to fill 1st, which door to enter the dinning room from, or asking the house director for permission to sit down if you were late, or to be excused if you had to leave early.  And of course we all remember having to run home to change for dinner after class, as we had to wear pin attire to dinner. Formal dinners are now only held at the chapter house for special occasions, and many of the rules have changed.. 
No matter what the meal, one things remains the same, Alpha Chi’s begin each meal  after the house director “rings the bell” signaling that the meal is ready, and then all in attendance singing Grace.
We would love to do a Chapter House Spotlight, on some of our servers past.. Do you have a favorite server story and/or photo.. Or have you kept in touch with, or even married a server? Please email us at axofloridastate {at} gmail {dot} com

Alumna Spotlight: Kim Courtney Gregorio


Kim is a Fall 1998 Beta Eta initiate. During her time as a Beta Eta, Kim held the position of social chair, participated in Dance Marathon, represented AXO in many philanthropic events on campus, and played intramurals for Alpha Chi. Kim was also involved in Lady Spirit Hunters and student government.

After college Kim moved to Atlanta and interned at a PR firm where fellow Beta Eta, Leah Nilles, was working. While in Atlanta, Kim also assisted the Alpha Chi chapter at UGA with Recruitment. Kim then moved to Washington D.C. and started her marketing career with Toys R Us. In D.C. Kim was able to reconnect with fellow Beta Eta sisters Janice Brown and Hannah Highfill. Although she was new to the city, having her sisters around made Kim feel right at home. In 2005, Kim moved to New York City. Once again her Beta Eta sisters helped make her transition to a new region that much easier. Currently in the New York Metro area, Kim has her Beta Eta family little sister (Megan Blomberg Curry), grand little (Tara Johnson), and great grand little (Jen Nicholson) all nearby.

Shortly after Kim’s move to NYC, her BH sister Tara Johnson introduced her to her future husband Chris Gregorio (Sigma Chi FSU ’00). Kim and Chris were married November 14, 2009 in Palm Beach Gardens, FL. Along with the many Alpha Chi sisters in attendance, Kim had two Beta Eta sisters stand with her.

Kim is now working as a marketing account manager for Accenture in NYC. Kim also is a member of Seminole Club of NYC and volunteers with the March of Dimes. Chris and Kim are preparing to move to a new apartment in Hoboken, NJ. Kim says without the love and support of her sisters she would have never been able to move so many places since leaving FSU. Kim is looking forward to seeing everyone at homecoming this year.

F-L-O-R-I-D-A -S-T-A-T-E, GO NOLES!!!

This past weekend, like many weekends in the fall, the many of the women in the chapter enjoyed a tailgate paired with a local fraternity, and then cheering our team on for a win!! Are you visiting Tallahassee for a game, or  really for anything? Be sure to stop by the house! We would love to show you around and hear about your time at 518…


In other news, the chapter is looking forward to a visit from Jenny, from HQ, this upcoming week. The collegiate chapter was chosen as one of 10 chapters to participate in a 4-year experience program. The chapter is currently working through the Freshman and Junior tracks, and thus far has found them very beneficial (thanks Foundation & Education)….

The chapter is also gearing up for Big/Little week so be sure to check back the next few Mondays when we can share some of goodies the new members received from their big sisters during week!

1st Annual Lucky Stars Reunion Weekend Agenda Information & Costs

Alpha Chi Omega Xi Omega Xi Chapter
1st Annual Lucky Stars Reunion Weekend
November 5-7, 2010
Homecoming Weekend ~ Tallahassee, Florida

Access this REGISTRATION FORM to use the “estimate of costs” tool and get signed up for the reunion weekend.

Easy as 1-2-3! STEPS:

  1. Download the form.
  2. Complete and save.
  3. Email to axofloridastate@gmail.com

REGISTER NOW!!
Register by October 23.

Agenda Information and Costs
All listed costs are approximate for planning purposes.

FRIDAY:

Friday Potbelly’s Parade Viewing: BH Alumnae groups to reserve some spots at Potbelly’s to view the Homecoming parade, which starts at 2:00pm.
approximately $ 20.00 per person

Friday “Tour n’ Talk”: Beta Eta house tours and meet alumnae women of Xi Omega Xi. Free gift for every alumnae who stops in!
FREE!

Friday Decades Waltz: “Waltz” with alumnae ladies and guests to fun Tallahassee night spots with a group giveaway.
$ 25.00 per person

AX Babysitters:
AX collegiate and alumnae women committed to stay with children to allow moms and dads to join the fun! (Final plans will be made based on how many attendees communicate the need for this service.)
$ 30.00 per child

SATURDAY:

XOX Tailgating: Beer in signature cup and snacks included.
$ 20.00 per person

Football Game: Join our reserved football block to cheer on the Seminoles!
$ 26.00 per adult
$ 12.00 per child

SUNDAY:

Homecoming Brunch: 10am-12pm Hosted by the Beta Eta collegiate chapter at the house.
FREE!

DISCOUNTS:
Are you attending at least one event on each day? $5 discount!!
Are you a XOX member? $10 discount!! Sign up today!

EXTRAS!

Hotel rooms have been blocked at Quality Inn; Appalachee Blvd. Price is inclusive of taxes and daily continental breakfast. Reservations and payment will be made directly with hotel.
$139 per night + applicable taxes

T-shirt – XOX: Shirts created exclusively for the alumnae women of Beta Eta. Payment will be made directly with printing vendor once design is confirmed.
$ 12.00 per shirt

T-shirt – BH Collegian: Shirts that the collegiate chapter is creating for Homecoming Weekend. Payment will be made directly with printing vendor once design is confirmed.
$12.00 per shirt

Coozie: Coozies created exclusively for this event. Payment will be made directly with printing vendor once design is confirmed.
$3.00 per coozie

XOX Membership: Are you a XOX member? $10 discount on events!! Sign up today!
$29.00 – Regular Membership
Commitment level: $48.00 – Regular Membership $29.00 + sponsorship of recent graduate $19.00
Wisdom level: $50.00 – Regular Membership $29.00 with $21.00 donation
Devotion level: $75.00 – Regular Membership $29.00 with $46.00 donation
Achievement level: $100.00 – Regular Membership $29.00 with $71.00donation

Wisdom, Devotion, and Achievement Patrons will be recognized in the program. These are donations that will benefit the chapter and AXO Foundation.

Once registration form is completed and emailed, you will be contacted via email about final payment options.

Please RSVP by October 27.

DVA Month is around the corner… how are you going to get the word out?

Beta Eta alumnae, Britain who blogs at SimplySouthernGirl, and ETE, Tallahasse Alumnae Chapter  President Amy Z, blogged about and will be participating in the below project!! In fact it looks like,  the collegiate chapter, may also participating!! If you decide to participate please email axofloirdastate {at} gmail {dot} com with photos of your cupcakes and we will post them on the blog! (we can also add your blog to the list of Beta Eta bloggers to the left <—-) .. Have fun, and we can't wait to see your creations, what a great way to get the word out about DVA, in a fun way!!

Who wants to join me for a blog party on October 2nd? Pixel Project is hosting a blog series of parties, public, private and virtual, calling for an end to violence against women. Here are the details:

Hey bloggers! Help us kick off the ‘Paint It Purple’ campaign by contributing a blogpost featuring:

  • A snapshot of YOUR version of the ‘Paint It Purple’ cupcake
  • Your YouTube PSA for our Wall of Support (while you wear a purple shirt!)
  • Your cupcake recipe!
Post that blogpost on 2 October 2010 to coincide with our global “Paint It Purple” parties to kick off Domestic Violence Awareness Month and send us the link to feature on our blog!
What is a “Paint It Purple” cupcake?
“Paint It Purple” cupcakes all have The Pixel Project’s purple and white ribbon on top as part of the cupcake’s decoration. This purple and white ribbon signifies men and women working together to end violence against women.
All decorative icing, marzipan etc should also follow the purple and white colour scheme.
Otherwise, the sky is the limit with how you want to decorate and flavour it!
So how do I sign up?
It’s simple:
Step 2: Email the completed form to the “Paint It Purple” campaign team atPaintItPurple2010@gmail.com

Step 3: We will get you registered and send you the “Paint It Purple” Bloggers’ Toolkit as soon as possible

Amy Zoldak, Zeta Upsilon Alumna & honorary Beta Eta

Born and raised in northeastern Ohio, Amy attended Case Western Reserve University. She began her Alpha Chi career as a “centennial” pledge in the fall of 1985 in Zeta Upsilon chapter. She served as pledge class president, a standards board member, and social chairman during her collegiate years. Outside of Alpha Chi, Amy was active in Panhellenic and student government and was elected and served as president of the latter in 1988.
      As an alumna, Amy served as Pledge/New Member Advisor to ZY and then as their Chapter Advisor from 1991-95. They were exciting times as the chapter moved into their first and current house, celebrated their 10th anniversary, won the AXO National Trophy and the national award for the best advisory board. Amy was active in Gamma Omicron Gamma alumnae chapter as well.
      Amy moved to Tallahassee in 2002 along with their now 12-year-old son, Thomas. Zeta Upsilon celebrated its 20th anniversary in September 2003 and Amy had such a good time helping plan the reunion that she volunteered to join the Beta Eta advisory board, where she serves as Fraternity Relations Advisor. She co-chaired the planning for Beta Eta’s 75th and 80th Anniversary celebrations, as well as Zeta Upsilon’s 25th. She is President of the Tallahassee alumnae group, Epsilon Tau Epsilon, and the ZY virtual alumnae chapter, Mu Tau Mu
    While the above paragraphs list Amy’s “official service” to Alpha Chi Omega, the countless hours she has committed to the Beta Eta collegiate chapter and the alumnae do not go unnoticed, we are are lucky to have Amy as an honorary Beta Eta. 

 

BH & ΞΩΞ Support National Hazing Prevention week

 National Hazing Prevention Week: September 20-24
Alpha Chi Omega Home Page Photo

National Hazing Prevention week is a great way to educate parents, faculty and staff, students, community members, chapter members and others so they can more easily recognize hazing. The goal of the week and continued efforts is to prevent hazing from happening. Hazing will only be eliminated through education, member commitment and adherence to national/campus policies.

HazingPrevention.Org is a non-profit organization whose goal is to encourage healthy and productive experiences for new members of teams, student organizations and fraternities and sororities. The site contains information about resources, programs and services of our organization including awards recognizing campuses and individuals for their hazing prevention efforts.

What Is Hazing?’

Hazing is any action or situation, with or without the consent of the participants, which recklessly, intentionally, or unintentionally endangers the mental, physical, or academic health or safety of a student.

This includes, but is not limited to any situation which:

Creates a risk of injury to any individual or group
Causes physical or mental discomfort to any individual or group
Causes embarrassment to any individual or group
Involves harassment of any individual or group
Involves degradation of any individual or group
Involves humiliation of an individual or group
Involves ridicule of an individual or group
Involves or includes the willful destruction or removal of public or private property for the purpose of initiation or admission into, affiliation with, or as a condition for continued membership in an organization
It includes physical injury, degradation, humiliation, the compromising of moral or religious values, forced consumption of any liquid or solid, placing an individual in physical danger, or at risk, which includes abandonment and impairment of physical liberties which include curfews or other interference with academic endeavors.

Alternatives to Hazing

New member activities should focus on the mission, purpose and role of Alpha Chi Omega. If an activity doesn’t reflect favorably on the values of Alpha Chi Omega, then another activity should be used. Commitment and dedication to Alpha Chi Omega values and purpose will come from actually engaging in activities that promote our values and purpose.

Ropes/Challenge Course
Plan a trip to another Alpha Chi Omega chapter
Do a project to improve the community
Raise money for Domestic Violence Awareness
Plan a Family Weekend
Participate in intramural Sports
Do a hands-on service project
Attend campus events together
Invite alumnae to chapter events; create a Networking Night
Educational programming regarding the history of the group and/or the university
Movie night
Group dinners
Conduct a leadership development workshop
Participate in a mentoring program

Beta Eta is supporting DVA, & so can you!

As you know, each Thursday we blog about various Domestic Violence Awareness issues. Additionally, we will blog about ways that the Beta Eta chapter is championing the cause, and offer suggestions about how you can as well!!

Just a reminder National Domestic Violence Awareness Month,  runs October 1st to 31st.  Nationally,  Alpha Chi Omega partners with Macy’s and the Family Violence Prevention Fund (FVPF). The FVPF brings us one of our favorite programs: the Give Respect campaign.

  

Each fall, Macy’s hosts Shop For A Cause at its stores nationwide. The details (from the Macy’s website):
Shop for a Cause is Macy’s national charity shopping day that offers the opportunity for local nonprofit organizations to raise funds in their communities. Since 2006, Shop for a Cause has helped raise more than $34 million for thousands of charity partners.
How it works:
Macy’s invites charities to sign up, sell $5 tickets and keep 100% of the proceeds of every ticket they sell. Macy’s also sells $5 tickets in-store with all proceeds benefiting designated charities. Customers purchasing tickets benefit by receiving incredible storewide shopping savings all day on October 16, 2010. On October 16, Macy’s also hosts special events, prizes and other in-store excitement.
Read more here.

The Beta Eta chapter sells tickets locally to alumnae, parents, and community contacts. You too can support the cause, as there are several ways Shop for Cause can benefit domestic violence awareness. First, tickets sold nationwide at the register in all Macy’s stores on October 16th will benefit Feeding America (and local food banks) and Family Violence Prevention Fund. Second, you can check the list of local causes to see if your community’s DV shelter is registered as a cause for the day. The list is here. (A third alternative is to organize ticket sales for your local service provider – it’s easy and risk-free. Details are here.)

Whichever way you choose to go, we hope you’ll be out supporting the cause on October 16th!